Divorce can be rough when your spouse is trying to make the divorce process even more difficult than it has to be. While you cannot stop your spouse from fighting dirty, there are some things you can do to make things a bit easier for yourself.
Focus on Making Yourself Happy
There may come a point where it is clear that there is nothing you can do to make the situation any better. You should stop focusing on others' needs and start doing what it takes to make you happy. If the attempts to patch things up are not working, then just stop. Accept the situation and stop thinking about others' feelings. There might be a resolution in the future, but that shouldn't stop you from focusing on yourself immediately.
Form A Close Support Group
With your spouse bringing bad energy into your life, it is important to be surrounded by friends and family that can act as a support group for you. This will be a long battle you have to fight, and the support you need is not going to be from your soon-to-be former spouse.
If you do not have those people that you need in your life, consider professional counseling to assist you with sorting out your thoughts and feelings.
Do Not Attempt Mediation
The purpose of mediation is to avoid going to court. The goal is to work on a solution to the divorce between the two of you where you both can have a say in the final decision. If it is clear that this is not going to happen, you might as well skip the mediation process and move directly to court. This is common if you have items that are non-negotiable, such as alimony, child support, or even custody. If you know a settlement will never be reached in mediation, why put yourself through the hassle of attempting it? Let a judge make those tough decisions for you.
Use A Divorce Lawyer
In addition to emotional support, you will need all the legal support you can get. Not only will a lawyer guide you through the entire process, but they can help you with things such as finding assets that your spouse is hiding, or assist with finding supporting evidence to get the results that you want. Having someone on your side that knows the divorce law nuances will definitely be in your best interest.
By following these tips, you'll be on the right path towards finalizing your divorce with a troublesome spouse. Reach out to professionals like Grenadier, Starace, Duffett & Keisler, PC for more information.
My husband and I had a great marriage for about ten years--that is, until he started cheating on me. I found out about it from a friend, and once I started peeling off the layers of my husband's lies, I realized that we hardly had anything to salvage in the first place. I decided that it would be best to get divorced, but I knew that it would be painful and difficult. This blog is for anyone out there who needs to gather the strength to get divorced. Check out these posts to learn more about the process and how the right lawyer can help.